“Love attracts only one thing and that thing is love.” Napoleon Hill
This quote has me thinking as I sip on my morning coffee… about tomorrow being Valentine’s Day… A celebration of love… But what kind? Romantic Love? Everyone that knows me personally knows that I believe in this notion. However,… What kind of love are we putting out there that attracts the absolute dysfunctional romantic relationships I see ALL around me? I’ve read that romance, in it’s purest form, seeks only one thing, and that is passion. Passion is willing to sacrifice everything else… every duty, obligation, relationship, and commitment in order to feed itself and it’s ego. Is it possible that modern romance is really about ourselves and the other person is just the best place holder?
But Love… Love has the power to awaken the ego to the existence of something outside of itself, outside of its plans, outside of its empire and outside of its security. Thus, love by its very nature is the exact opposite of egocentricity. Love leads us toward the goodness, the value, and the needs of the people around us. In its very essence, love is appreciation, a recognition of another’s value. It moves us to honor each other rather that use one another, to ask how we might serve and support instead of what we get in return.
So my thought is this: If human nature is to love… Why are we not attracting love? A lasting love… A love that doesn’t end in dishonesty, cheating, angry ex partners who share child custody and are the third wheels in most modern relationships. We romance each other into bed to feed our own needs, end up with a child whose parents are mismatched in a romantic relationship. I think we are approaching this from the opposite angle… we should save the romance to celebrate real love… not use it to try to talk someone into boosting our own self worth.
Since I am not in a “romantic” relationship at this point, I will celebrate this Valentine’s day with a heart full of gratitude for the amazing family and friends I share TRUE love with on a daily basis. We all make mistakes, get mad, fall down and hurt but most importantly… we forgive and grow. Love between human beings is one of the absolute realities of human nature… if we’re not attracting the kind of love we want into our lives we ABSOLUTELY must start with adjusting the kind of love we are putting out into the world. Happy Birthday Dad(today) and Mom(17th). I love you both and appreciate the true love you give me.